De-muddling a gift has to be one of the hardest things to do. Not only are you riddled with the guilt of tossing it, but also feel obligated to cherish the gift even though it doesn’t work for you. Additionally, you might have a fear of “What if they ask me about it?” or that you’re insulting the person’s love by giving it up. To be real, it’s actually all in your head and I’ll explain how it got there and how to stop torturing yourself.
First things first, you have to separate the feeling from the gift itself; it’s just an object, a thing. Next, understand the gift is merely a manifestation of their feelings for you, and the action of giving it to you is how they receive joy. They’ll always remember you showed happiness and appreciation when they handed it over, which is good enough for them.
Once the feelings have been exchanged you are then free to do whatever with the gift (object). If you love it and use it that’s great, but if you never use it, it’s muddle and time to consider finding it a new home.
Now to shake off the fear of the person finding out you’ve de-muddled it, THINK, when was the last time someone actually checked up on what they gave you? Right, it hasn’t happened. This means you’ve literally been scaring yourself with the threat of being caught; which is not cool! Chances are, they think you’ve already worn it or it’s displayed elsewhere either way; they won’t care to ask. Now with the 1% chance that they do ask you can tell them the truth or you can just thank them again for the gift and maybe quickly change the subject lol, your call I’m just trying to help.
At the end of the day, tossing a gift doesn’t have to leave you paralyzed and paranoid; it’s really easier than you think. Today try de-muddling three items and go over the steps to finally get them out for good! You’ll be grateful you did.
Step 1: Stop feeling guilty
Step 2: Separate the feelings from the object
Step 3: Shake off the thought of getting caught
Step 4: Out it goes!
Bonus Tip: How do I get rid of it? What if I want to sell it?
You can always donate it to a thrift shop or re-gift it to someone that would actually like it. If you want to sell it you can ask someone else to sell it for you so the trail doesn’t lead back to you 😉 lol